How would you feel if your significant other was involved in a life-altering situation? Norah Sanders shares her perspective on this question as her boyfriend Sergio was involved in a traumatic event that left him paralyzed at the age of eighteen. Sergio’s injury and recovery process made the couple experience mixed emotions. But through it all, Norah proclaims their ‘unspoken love’ for one another never wavered and because of that the couple continues to remain strong.
“Most of our time together we stayed away from conversations for doubts, concerns, and uncertainties. We never spoke of his nor my fears. Even in his desperate attempts to close me out of his upside down world we never spoke details of his legs never moving again. Our unspoken love took over and pushed love to show up in our actions.”
Norah did her best to keep her composure in front of Sergio’s family members. However, she admits that she allowed herself to feel the emotions when she was by herself. “When surrounded by his hurting family I did my best not to break down. Once I was alone I was able to fall completely apart. All by myself I was free to fight my own pain,” says Norah.
The first few days Sergio was in the hospital, Norah writes, the couple did not have to communicate their love verbally to one another. In fact, the only words Norah spoke was repeating “I love you” to Sergio on a regular basis. The couple communicated their love for each other by physical touch. “The gentle rubs on the tops for heads to the many nights of just hearing each other’s heartbeat. A reminder that while our hearts carry scars they still beat.”
“Why were we able to know each other’s thoughts without saying a word? Perhaps it was because we both already knew that no matter what we would survive this day and the days to follow. We both knew that we had already allowed our hearts to blend together as one. They were connected.”
Norah concludes her post by stating, “love is unspoken at times, souls talk to each other in trauma. They hear each other in the noise of hurt. They touch in pain.”
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