Parents have so much pressure to be perfect these days. Jennifer, a parent and also a wheelchair user, writes about this parenting pressure as it applies to the disabled community.
“We are supposed to be inspiring to others, overcoming “challenging feats” and all that jazz. We are supposed to smile and be grateful to be alive, no matter our circumstances.”
But the truth is that parenting is hard no matter your situation. “I am not always perky, patient, or the most forgiving person,” admits Jennifer. “To say that my disability and the limitations it brings is not a factor, would be dishonest.”
It’s important to remember that it’s okay to be human when it comes to parenting. It’s okay to be frustrated. It’s okay to have inscurities. It’s even okay if you don’t always approach parenting with enthusiasm.
“You are not alone if there are days when you can’t even think about getting in your wheelchair to fix a bottle.”
Another important point Jennifer makes is that it’s okay to ask for help. “Asking for help does not make you less of a parent,” writes Jennifer. It means you care about your children’s well being and want to give them the best you can, even if that means getting a little outside help to do it.
Jennifer reminds all parents on wheels: “All you can do is be your best. There are days when your body (and mind) will betray you, but remember, you are not alone.”